How would
you feel if you could not speak or function for yourself? Frustrated? Angry?
Confused? This is exactly what happens with many seniors who cannot manage
their own affairs. At such times, others must become actively involved to
ensure the senior receives the best care and quality of life possible. My own
father lost not only his memories but also his ability to talk due to
Alzheimer’s disease. This left me to serve as his eyes, ears and voice and to advocate
for him.
Advocating,
while sounding complex and daunting, doesn’t have to be. Here are just a few of
my recommendations, taken from my personal caregiving experience:
Apply for Guardianship or Trusteeship: These are legal processes which
allow someone to manage a dependent adult’s affairs. Please note that
Guardianship and Trusteeship are NOT one and the same thing … Guardianship will
allow you to manage a senior’s personal affairs (i.e.
accommodation, care providers, etc.) while Trusteeship will allow you to manage
a senior’s financial affairs. Having Guardianship does not automatically
grant you Trusteeship and vice versa. If considering either option, my best
advice here is to get legal counsel; doing so will better ensure that all the
“I’s” are dotted and “T’s’ are crossed correctly. As a Guardian or Trustee, it
can be a good idea to keep spare copies of the court orders handy (maybe even
scan and save these on your computer at home so you can print off a copy,
whenever required).
Ask Questions: Of doctors, lawyers, bankers, financial
planners, pharmacists, social workers and anybody else involved with your loved
one’s care. Remember when advocating for a senior, there is no such thing as a foolish
question and clarifying information provided has to be one of the easiest
things to do. Ask until you completely understand and don’t let any matter
escape without being fully explained. As a former co-caregiver, I made it a
practice to always carry a notebook and pen to every appointment I would
accompany Mom and/Dad to. I noted responses and returned to these later to
ensure complete understanding. You could also carry a small digital tape
recorder in your car. Take a few moments immediately following each appointment
(so that you don’t miss anything), to record thoughts and/or comments shared.
Peer Into the Parental Closet: You’re not looking for any skeletons
here! Instead, you are examining how well the long-term care staff cleans the
area (it may be an easy spot to be “out-of-sight’ and “out-of-mind”). While
your parent’s room may be swept and mopped regularly, unhealthy germs can still
collect in a dirty closet and pose risk to your loved one. Don’t just stop at
glancing into the closet(s)! Look at the care facility’s public washroom,
stairwells and foodservice areas as well.
Plan Sporadic Visits: Years ago, when Dad was still alive,
I would stop in to see him every Sunday afternoon, like clockwork, to see him.
But I certainly didn’t stop there! My visits also came at intermittent times
throughout the week as well. Through my random visits, I felt better able to
see any inconsistencies with my father’s care (or even the care of other
residents). Schedule a visit or two around resident meal time. Breakfast, lunch
or dinner can be a hectic time at a care facility … is your loved one eating a
full meal and/or getting any help necessary?
Monitor Your Loved One’s Appearance: While you may not have the necessary
medical experience to completely diagnose a physical problem, it can be quite
easy to observe a person in any discomfort. Watch for pained facial
expressions, limping, unsteadiness or unexplained bruising. In addition, does
Mom/Dad get a regular bath? This is vital for a person’s own hygiene and
comfort. I also routinely examined my father’s chin stubble to confirm he had
been shaved.
Insist on Regular Updates: Keep the communication lines between
you and your loved one’s care facility open. If Mom/Dad needs to be moved to a
different room for any reason or requires a change in medical prescription,
you’ll want to know. Provide all means of available contact (i.e. landline
phone, cellular phone, e-mail, etc.) so you can be reached at any time.
Meet with Long-Term Care Facility Management: At Dad’s long-term care facility, my
family was able to schedule meetings with the facility management to talk about
Dad’s health, pose questions and, if necessary, air grievances. Should there be
any issues raised, take steps to better protect you and your loved one and create
a paper trail. Following each meeting with long-term care management, write a
letter reiterating what has been discussed and when. Include any advice/plan of
action suggested. Mail/E-mail a copy while keeping a copy for your own files. If
no such arrangement exists for you, speak up and make a recommendation. Talk to
other family caregivers who may echo your thoughts.
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