I was truly flattered to receive this review from a reader of my new book, "Caregiver's Guide for Canadians". I have reprinted this in its entirety below ...
An object only becomes necessary to possess when it is discovered that it is beautiful, rare and valuable. So it is with an idea. When it is deemed important, it becomes mandatory to utilize or own it. This book is a rare jewel that needs to be 'possessed' in every person's life, for their own well-being.
This 139-page book is a caregiver's goldmine of information and shared experience. Any person who is, or may be, involved in being a part-time or full-time caregiver for a loved one will be glad to be able to access this collection of valuable tips and must do's to easy their way in doing this very difficult work while also making a life for themselves (and family).
Rick's first chapter, "Sharing My Story" touched me deeply. I too have dealt with multiple instances of caregiving. He is clear and articulate, but I could read the emotion between the lines. Caregiving can be a blessing, but it is truly a very difficult job on all levels.
The chapter on "Defining Caregiving" is very important for many reasons. A potential caregiver has to realize that it is a necessity to offer this sacrifice for a loved one - a sacrifice which includes steep learning curves on many medical issues as well as changes in personal attitudes and needs. Section 2 on "Remembering to take care of yourself" is a standout, true knock-out punch. There will be many times in the span of caregiving when it is a real life sacrifice to continue. All efforts that can be made to de-stress, sleep and eat properly and otherwise look after your own situation will help overcome the aftermath of the constant devotion, attention and time involved in caregiving. Besides the weariness of body/health/mind, at the end of each caregiving role is the resultant grief of saying goodbye to a dear person and closing all affairs.
Caregiving in different locations and finding suitable accommodation includes valuable information on many things that may not be realized until after important decisions have been made. When dealing with an irretrievably unwell person, it is amazing how many issues there are that have to be investigated in order for the loved one to be in as comfortable a position as possible. Every item must be considered, but be aware that what may be said, indeed written, may not come to pass in actuality. Constant supervision may be required to ensure proper care and nutrition. One cannot assume that 100% of the care that you would hope to be given to a "patient" is actually done - whether it be meals, dressing, laundry, medical or personal needs. For example, small but important things like changing watch batteries, clocks at time change, finding out if new personal items (shampoo, clothes, etc.) are required, adherence to diet requirements (by patient and facility) may take personal investigation or observation on an ongoing basis.
I speak from experience as a previous staff member of a long-term care facility as well as a caregiver in multiple (all different) cases. Rick speaks of caregiving for older persons. I have also been a caregiver for persons in their 40's and younger, whose needs are different in many ways, although the end result may be the same. Constant adjustments have to be done considering the medical problems, age and subsequent needs of each person. Some of what is written may not apply to such a situation.
Rick has attempted to ease caregiving situations by giving lists of possible resources, activities, aids, etc. that will make life easier for all parties involved. As well, the print-out sheets at the end of this book (Caregiving Checklists and Worksheets) are valuable beginnings for all potential caregivers. Each situation is unique and may require adjustments in the forms, but the basic information required is shown.
In Chapter 11, Rick states, "... caring for ... were some of the hardest things I have ever had to do ..." I totally agree, and you will too. He ends with a positive note that, "caregiving can also be a beautiful thing." You will find out why. Note that it will be necessary tlo prepare for the future, the end of that particular caregiving role and who knows what - maybe you will be the next one to access someone to be a caregiver for you. This book is also helpful to allow you to ease into that transition in the knowledge that you could make it as easy as possible for your future caregiver - and thus yourself. This book will benefit you on all counts. Remember that life is not static - it can change in a moment.
Shirley K. Stevenson - Edmonton
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